The following is an interview with the American actress Demi Moore on how she had rescued her relationship with her mother in the final moments, excerpted form the Oprah Winfrey website. I recommend you to read it till the end, you will find great lessons on forgiveness
For someone so committed to doing the best for her own children, Demi says her relationship with her mother, Virginia, was sometimes challenging. Demi says her mother had her when she was just 18. By the time Demi was 5, she started calling her mom Ginny. "My experience is that I was very much the mother to my mother
Demi says her mother had undiagnosed bipolar disorder and struggled with addiction, and Demi left home at 16
Demi says her mother had undiagnosed bipolar disorder and struggled with addiction, and Demi left home at 16
As Demi became famous, their relationship became more difficult and Demi eventually chose to completely cut off contact with her mother. "She made some choices that were, what I felt, potentially threatening to my children and the family that I had created", she says. "In the moment I felt as if it was the best thing that I could do, because it was setting myself up to have something unpredictable. Whether it was selling stories to the tabloids or things that I just felt I couldn't trust
After seven years of separation, Demi received news that her mother had been diagnosed with cancer and doctors feared she wouldn't make it through the night. "We all flew to where she was in New Mexico, Demi says. When we got down there, I realized that she had never met the two younger children. And the last time she had seen my oldest daughter is [when] she was 2 years old
Virginia lived through the night and Demi decided she would care for Virginia until the end of her life. "It was a tremendous, tremendous gift. I don't know what gave me any kind of clarity to make that decision, but I am so grateful that I did because … I walked away having so much more of her than I would have had, had I not taken that time to be there," Demi says. "I went really not with an expectation of, 'I want her to apologize, I want her to have some big clarity of where things went awry. And what I got was this little glimpse. … She didn't even say, 'I'm sorry.' She said, 'I wish it could have been better.' And that was so much. … That really gave me such an enormous healing
When Virginia died three and a half months later, Demi says she felt, "Whatever wrongdoings, bad deeds, actions that she had—what was hers was hers and she took it with her. And what was mine—whether justified or not, anything that I did that was potentially negative, out of anger—was mine. And I didn't have this place that I could push it towards anymore. And it really gave me a lot of a compassion for myself. In a way … I don't know if I knew that it was okay to be vulnerable before that
When Virginia died three and a half months later, Demi says she felt, "Whatever wrongdoings, bad deeds, actions that she had—what was hers was hers and she took it with her. And what was mine—whether justified or not, anything that I did that was potentially negative, out of anger—was mine. And I didn't have this place that I could push it towards anymore. And it really gave me a lot of a compassion for myself. In a way … I don't know if I knew that it was okay to be vulnerable before that
Demi says dealing with issues with her mother made her realize how important it is for all people to forgive before it's too late. Because really when they're gone, they're gone," she says. While they're alive, you're putting it over there thinking that it's not yours.… There's just so much more to gain when you can recognize the innocence and the beauty of what someone is and be able to clear that path. You just make room for so much more in your life
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